A relatively new year and a relatively proven idea...The Damn Newsletter is back!
So this is the section of the newsletter that I talk about what's going on with me? Honestly...I have no idea. I'm actually trying to find myself. Wow that is funny putting that into words you can read over and over again. An almost 33 year old man with a almost 5 year old is trying to find himself. Something is wrong with that picture but that's where I find myself these days. Who knew I'd be at this point? Any who...at least I'm down 14 pounds and counting so that's something. Right now the gym and getting fit is all I have so I'm gonna stunt with that bad boy. I'm gonna make the gym my bitch! (You know as much as you can make an inanimate object your bitch!)
Now to the shout out! The Damn Newsletter Shout Out goes to none other than Malene Coleman.
Malene is a full time nurse, one of my "workout" inspirations, one of the greatest combinations of coolness and beauty in Louisiana history! Yeah I said it! Lol. Hmm...to think that the first few years of knowing her I was petrified to talk to her. I thought I needed something smooth to say to match her coolness. *shrug* Congrats on The Damn Newsletter Shout Out Malene!
I was recently asked a question, what is my definition of success? I stood there with my mouth open an a blank expression. I mean it doesn't seem like a hard question. I know I’m not successful right now. I know I need to put some work in to be successful. So because I know these things, I should be able to answer this question. But all I had was an open mouth and a blank stare. Hmm… Finally I couldn't take it anymore and tried to give what clearly was a bull shit answer (both I and the person that asked me recognized that) but the question just lingered. How can I tell myself how unsuccessful (or successful for that matter) I am if I don’t have a gauge?
Realistically it makes sense. In sports it’s easy to know if you’re successful. You have stats. Batting average, TD pass, assists, rebounds, even wins are used in a variety of different sports. How can I determine how many wins I got in my career? Furthermore the purpose of keeping stats is to compare yourself to different people that play your position and different competitors that you face. No one else plays your “life’s position” so how can you compare yourself to someone else?
Your definition of success is what you feel success is…period. The problem is most of us don’t have set expectations. Let alone modify those expectations once you reach them. I can’t lie I don’t have anything like that. Makes me wonder why the hell am I so hard on myself. I mean at least if I had them and I wasn't reaching success I could get mad. I also could lay into others when they give me that “oh Jarratt, you’re successful in my eyes because of blah, blah, blah” speech. Even devise a plan on how to achieve success. Right now at this very minute…I have shit. Not a damn thing. Hmm…
So here’s my success list
• Be able to sustain a more than comfortable way of life ($100,000 or more) for my dependent(s) and myself in a business I have created (or co-created), enjoy, and manage focusing on one to two things I truly love: Entertaining people and Helping people.
• Lose enough weight where I don’t feel like a fat ogre (no offense to Shrek if he’s reading) Roughly around 215 to 230 lbs. I am a foodie and I do overwork but a lifestyle needs to take place. Actively watching what I eat and consistently exercising 2 to 3 times a week minimum.
• Partner with my co-parent to raise Brooklyn to be an intelligent, well-mannered, well-balanced, humble, kind, young lady. I want to do this by instilling values I have been taught, lessons I have learned, supporting her unconditionally, and creating an open field of communication that give her comfort in being able to talk to me about anything.
• Leave a mark on each and every individual I significantly (a year or more) come in to contact with. I am blessed to have some wonderful people in my life and I want to touch people with my intelligence, humor, kindness, and support so that I will never be forgotten.
• Enjoy this gift of life in all the ways I can conceive. I want to accomplish this by utilizing, maintaining, and modifying my “bucket list”.
Now no excuses. I gotta make it happen…
But those are just my thoughts…right or wrong…just what I was feeling at the time.
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